"I use a tool called the wheel of emotions, and I cannot count how many men have been floored when we discover that the feeling they labeled as anger was actually betrayal, abandonment, or loneliness."

"I use a tool called the wheel of emotions, and I cannot count how many men have been floored when we discover that the feeling they initially labeled as anger was actually betrayal, abandonment, or loneliness.

I've also noticed that men spend much of their time and energy pursuing achievements that are recognized by other men. Whether that's getting a degree, starting a family, buying a house, running a marathon, or splurging on a luxury car, men often aspire to meet expectations that will be seen as valuable by other men.

Teaching men how to identify emotions, differentiate feelings from beliefs, and build meaningful relationships can be a slow process. But I have yet to see a man regret the work it takes to find connection and be open to being loved."

"That's the bind many therapists find themselves in. You want to help, but it's hard to reach someone who's been conditioned to see any gesture of care as weakness, manipulation, or 'feminist propaganda.'"

"When I can stay curious about what's underneath instead of confronting the belief head-on, clients usually start to feel safer exploring what's really going on. It's not about pushing them to change their worldview right away. It's about helping them see that their worldview might be protecting something they haven't had the support to feel yet."

"While we definitely need to address the negative impacts of patriarchy, it feels like the pendulum has swung really far. A lot of men feel like they shouldn't speak now, and we've demonized men in many ways, so there's not really space for them to communicate and express how they feel."

"Common rites of passage such as first dates, prom, and college social gatherings β€” where young people would normally meet and develop these skills β€” were almost completely abandoned. Instead of widening this division, we should be working on how to heal and adapt to these changes in healthier ways. This problem will only find resolution by coming together and working cooperatively, not by playing the blame game or becoming combative."

"Anger management shouldn't be about managing anger. It should be about getting to the root of the behavior or problem."

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