"The thing about libido is that it's always changing and affected by day-to-day life, along with your history. Your libido rarely stays the same in your life. ... things will always change."

Warning: This post discusses sexual assault.

"Over time, I started to see what a healthy relationship looked like. We went through the pandemic together, lost family members together, moved across the country, and went through career changes. We also laugh a lot. Like belly laugh, tears running down your face laughs almost every day. We travel and see the world together, we play games, and we have adopted a few dogs. I finally feel like I can be myself, every version of myself, every day. I know hard times will be met with love and support, and good times will be richer shared with my best friend. I really have the life and partner I always dreamed of, but he just doesn't like kinky sex. And there are always dungeons for that part."

"Yes, yes, yes, yes! It's dynamic, like everything in life, alive and fluctuating. 'As above, so below.'"

"She lost her job, and during her time at home, she dove fully into gaming, playing 10-plus hours a day. I guess her insecurities made her susceptible to the 'kind words' of strangers because she found herself in an emotional affair that turned physical twice before I found out, which led to our divorce. So, for me, what ultimately did us in wasn't the dead bedroom, but the betrayal of trust that came with it. I definitely consider sexual compatibility a hard requirement for a successful relationship now, though."

"It was probably the worst two weeks of my life. That was when he finally opened up to me about it. All I needed was some communication, so I knew it wasn't something wrong with me, because I worried he thought I was ugly or gross or something. We decided to stay together because I understand him better now. He's asexual, so we don't have sex. But I'm okay with that because I understand why. He's become a better and more communicative partner, and we rarely ever argue now because that resentment is gone."

"She doesn't enjoy making out. She doesn't usually like me to touch her intimately or to initiate, and she rarely does so unprompted. I am generally miserable when it comes to our sex life and intimacy. I don't feel like my wants and needs in that realm are important to her. She feels terrible about herself because she can't come anywhere close to what I want. We absolutely fucking love each other and otherwise are pretty happy in our marriage and as parents. There's so much hurt and resentment both ways with our sexual incompatibility, though, that I honestly fear we won't make it, no matter how much we want to stay together and love each other."

"If I knew my wife did this, I'd never get a boner again."

Note: Responses have been edited for length/clarity.

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