“It’s all about them and shows a lack of maturity or self-awareness.”

I’m an award-winning writer and editor living in New York City, where I currently work at BuzzFeed as the Senior Lifestyle Editor.

"This! I don’t really have a need or desire for anything expensive. I had a guy buy me a designer bag once. I just don’t care for them, and he knew that, but for some reason, to him, the cost of the bag made it a good gift."

"I hated this when I was waiting tables! Especially since half the time, the men wouldn't even make it clear that it was his order AND hers. So I'd turn to the lady, and the guy would get mad. Bro, how am I meant to know you're not gonna eat two entrees? I've seen people do it."

"As a guy, I've always viewed jealousy as a sign of distrust. I've never been the jealous type unless something seemed to be obviously off, and it really irks me when a partner gets jealous of my friends for just existing."

"They are never appealing either, the angle and lighting will suck, and there is always something disgusting in the background of the image they didn’t even see when selecting that picture to share, like their dirty underwear on the floor or the fact you can tell they have a phobia of cleaning products."

"This. It's all about them and shows a lack of maturity or self-awareness. So 'passionate' is the new coded word for lack of consent."

"I ended things with a man I was talking to last year. We'd been talking for a few weeks, had a date planned and organized, and he started texting/calling me constantly and getting pissy when I couldn't or didn't answer right away because I was working or doing something else. Not to mention, he started talking about marriage as if it were a given; I'd want to marry him before we'd even been on a date. I ended up having to report him to the police because he went apeshit after I ended things and blocked him. That kind of intensity doesn't come from a good place."

"My ex 'proposed' on Christmas. He didn't even hand it to me himself; he handed the box to my son to give to me. Didn't ask, just assumed I would know, I guess??? The ring was not my style AT ALL. I found out later that he had it made for an ex-girlfriend he never got a chance to propose to because they broke up. Just one oof after another.

And yes, I know. My taste is terrible. That's why I'm happily single now!"